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EPISODE · Mar 6, 2026 · 1H 11M

The 5 Silent Killers of Attraction in Marriage

from The Family Captain · host John Michael Clark

It's alarming how many Christians miss this particular element that God designed when it comes to your marriage.We're talking about ATTRACTION."I love my wife and she loves me and the Bible says she shouldn't deprive me sexually!"Well, OK, my brother, that's true. But you're missing a huge helping of wisdom there.Because what is ALSO true is that the Lord has designed sexual attraction to be a thing.And the more attractive you are to your wife, the more she's going to want you.And not just physically.The more ecstatic your marriage will be overall. More fun, more flirting, more joy, and yes, more intimacy.In this episode, we break down the top 5 most common things that KILL intimacy in a marriage.Listen, decide if you've got some vulnerabilities you can address, then get to work and watch as things change.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro3:07 How to initiate before bed (with example)9:11 Killer 1: Neediness14:20 I don't need my wife...I want my wife19:06 Killer 2: Stagnation24:30 The Kryptonite of Mastery28:23 Killer 3: Neglect36:51 Killer 4: Low Status50:13 Killer 5: Submitted Out Of Fear1:00:47 "My better half"---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

It's alarming how many Christians miss this particular element that God designed when it comes to your marriage.We're talking about ATTRACTION."I love my wife and she loves me and the Bible says she shouldn't deprive me sexually!"Well, OK, my brother, that's true. But you're missing a huge helping of wisdom there.Because what is ALSO true is that the Lord has designed sexual attraction to be a thing.And the more attractive you are to your wife, the more she's going to want you.And not just physically.The more ecstatic your marriage will be overall. More fun, more flirting, more joy, and yes, more intimacy.In this episode, we break down the top 5 most common things that KILL intimacy in a marriage.Listen, decide if you've got some vulnerabilities you can address, then get to work and watch as things change.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro3:07 How to initiate before bed (with example)9:11 Killer 1: Neediness14:20 I don't need my wife...I want my wife19:06 Killer 2: Stagnation24:30 The Kryptonite of Mastery28:23 Killer 3: Neglect36:51 Killer 4: Low Status50:13 Killer 5: Submitted Out Of Fear1:00:47 "My better half"---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

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