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EPISODE · Mar 26, 2026 · 34 MIN

The 8 Patterns I Had to Unlearn to Finally Feel Safe and Successful

from Taking Life by the Raines Season 1 · host takinglifebytheraines

Here's the reality. When you grow up in chaos, you learn to survive it. And those survival skills, the armor, the walls, the need to control everything, they don't just disappear when you become an adult. They follow you. Into your marriage. Into your parenting. Into your work. Into every single relationship you try to build. I spent years not knowing that the patterns I was running on were directly connected to what I lived through as a kid. No hot water. Moving every year. Hiding past-due bills in the mailbox. A house in 10th grade with two mattresses on the floor and no fridge. I thought that was just life. I didn't realize until way later that I had built a whole personality around surviving it. In this episode I'm getting into the stuff I didn't talk about in Episode 1. Not just what happened, but what it did to me on the inside. Why I couldn't accept a compliment. Why I hit $15 million in sales and still felt like it wasn't enough. Why I was a workaholic and calling it a badge of honor when honestly, it was a trauma response. Why I pushed away the people who loved me the most. God has been so faithful in my healing. Truly. But I also had to do the work, and I want to help you do it too. You are not alone if you came from chaos. And it does not dictate where you're going. I promise you that.   New episodes every week. Subscribe so you never miss one. 💜   📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/takinglifebythera Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/ 📲 Follow Brandi: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/brandirainesbeauty Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/followbrandiraines/ About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_ Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi   🎧 Listen on Spotify & Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com   In this episode: How growing up in chaos creates toxic patterns in adulthood Why being a workaholic is actually a trauma response My scarcity mindset with money and how I rewired it The "closet clubhouse" I built as a child just to feel safe Why I could never accept compliments or celebrate my own success How childhood wounds affect marriage, friendships, and parenting Breaking generational patterns, because the buck stops here What therapy taught me and what you can do without it childhood trauma healing | trauma response workaholic | overcoming childhood wounds | generational patterns | personal growth podcast for women | faith and healing | scarcity mindset money | women empowerment podcast #takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #childhoodtrauma #traumahealing #personalgrowth #womenempowerment #christianwomen #millennialmom #selfimprovement #generationaltrauma   Powered by ATL Podcast Pros https://atlpodcastpros.com

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