The ADHD No One Sees: How Masking, Burnout, and “High-Functioning” Expectations Are Failing Women with Becca Tolbert

We’re diving in with Rebecca Tolbert—a therapist and ADHD expert who brings both clinical expertise and lived experience to the conversation.We talk about the quiet, easily-missed ways ADHD shows up in women, why so many are misread or misdiagnosed, and how masking and “high-functioning” expectations lead to chronic burnout and shame. This episode also zooms out to name how the current political climate is dysregulating our nervous systems—and why choosing joy and softness can be an act of resistance.In this episode, we explore:How ADHD often presents differently in women—and why it’s overlookedMasking, burnout, and the pressure to appear “high-functioning”The grief of being misunderstood, misdiagnosed, or dismissedHow sociopolitical stressors impact neurodivergent nervous systemsJoy as resistance, and choosing softness over shameIf you’ve ever felt like you’re working twice as hard just to keep it together, this episode offers language, validation, and a gentler way forward.You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. And you’re not failing—your nervous system has been doing its best in a world that wasn’t built with you in mind.Support the showIf this episode resonated with you, share it with a woman in your life who's been in a quiet season and needs to hear that it counts as growth too. And if you haven't left a rating yet — it takes 30 seconds and means everything. Let's keep building this together.💜`If this conversation sparked something for you and you’re ready for deeper support, I work with high-achieving women, creatives, and founders through individual therapy—supporting you in building a life and relationships that feel steady, connected, and aligned. And if you’re craving clarity around your brand, message, or how you’re showing up publicly, The Visibility Studio is my 90-minute marketing mentorship session designed to help you cut through the noise and build a strategy that actually feels like you.You can learn more about my services at https://www.jazzmynproctor.com/