The “Anti” Valentine’s Day Episode (In the Best Way): Stop Measuring Love by One Day // 40

💖 Is Valentine’s Day quietly becoming a measuring stick for your marriage? With Valentine’s Day around the corner, it’s easy to start asking the silent questions: Did he plan something? Did he get flowers? Does he even care? In this episode of the RIP IT OFF Podcast, Michelle invites you to pause before turning February 14th into a verdict on how loved you feel. After sharing a simple but powerful moment — waking up to a clean kitchen and a husband who quietly served without being asked — Michelle unpacks how comparison and cultural expectations can distort how we measure love in marriage. This isn’t about canceling Valentine’s Day. It’s about refusing to let one Hallmark holiday define your relationship. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why Valentine’s Day can quietly become a measuring stick in marriage The difference between steady love and performative love How comparison blinds us to the faithfulness right in front of us What to do when your marriage feels strained or disconnected A simple prayer to help shift your perspective Why gratitude can change the atmosphere of your marriage A Simple Perspective Shift For many men, love looks like: Going to work every single day Carrying responsibility without applause Fixing what’s broken Showing up consistently, even when they’re tired Serving in quiet, unnoticed ways Those things may not come wrapped in roses — but they are deeply loving. Instead of asking, “Why isn’t he more like someone else’s husband?” What if you asked, “How is he already loving me?” Even if your marriage feels hard right now, Michelle invites you to ask the Holy Spirit to help you see just one thing. Here’s the prayer shared in this episode: Holy Spirit, please open my eyes. Help me see one thing about my husband that's a blessing — big, small, anywhere in between. Help me notice the ways he cares for me, for our children, and for our family, even if it looks completely different than everyone else's. Sometimes gratitude doesn’t come naturally. It comes supernaturally. And even one small shift can soften a hardened place. If this conversation stirred something deeper in you, Michelle mentions her 31-day journey, Naked & Unashamed, where these topics are explored more intentionally with truth, grace, and clarity. 👉🏻 CONNECT WITH MICHELLE 💰 Save 10% with Budget Besties Simplified Budget System - use code MICHELLE ☕️ Buy Me a Coffee - Love the podcast, consider supporting RIP IT OFF 📖 Naked & Unashamed: A 31-Day Journey - save 10% with code SAVE10 💌 Free Download: 5 Lies Christian Women Believe About Sex & Marriage ⭐ Leave a Review on Apple Podcasts - Help other Christian wives find healing and biblical truth about intimacy. 📲 Instagram: @ripitoffpodcast 📩 Speaking & guest inquiries: [email protected]