The Anxiety and Non-Monogamy Episode

We take another dive into discussing common barriers to communication and relationship security with writer Lola Phoenix, who has been navigating this for theirself and others online and IRL for years.2:00 a lot of common questions5:00 power dynamics8:00 on being protective of the community 10:00 what are your biggest challenges with non-monogamy?14:00 disagreement doesn’t have to be scary17:00 forgive yourself for being afraid of abandonment22:00 attention helps us to survive25:00 I will grow my own life regardless of you27:00 what is an anchor? A personal reason for doing 32:00 is being primary the most fun?36:00 we are primed for monogamy39:00 personal preference is not the rule42:00 jealousy regarding sleepovers/sex46:00 i don’t need to hear the details for you to have fun50:00 red flags vs irrational53:00 women have to look for threats regularly56:00 book suggestions59:00 object impermanance1:03:00 how to ask for partner support1:08:00 on hiring a sex worker36:00 people are encouraged to be monogamousFIND YOUR GUESTt nonmonogamyhelp.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.comCondoms and Lube can be found on Condomania.com - code THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!Need a waterproof blanket? Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEXLooking for quality vibes? Get 15% off at LoveCrave.com Thanks for rating and reviewing this podcast :)