EPISODE · May 8, 2026 · 41 MIN
The Art of Growing Up with Jerry Colonna: Coaching Queries, Ancestral Beliefs & Coaching vs Therapy
from The Impactful Coach: Learn Coaching Skills & Coaching Demos · host Tobi Weghorn from metaFox Coaching Tools
A coaching podcast with Jerry Colonna and Tobias Weghorn, digging into radical self-inquiry coaching and what it really means to “grow up” as a leader and as a human. Jerry shares why the past is always present in executive coaching with a psychoanalytic perspective, and how compassion and curiosity unlock the unconscious patterns that keep clients stuck. You’ll also unpack his well-known “how have I been complicit” question, why “complicit” is different from “responsible,” and how shame and guilt derail real change. The episode also gets practical about coaching vs therapy boundaries, including when to bring in a therapist, and why coaching supervision for coaches (and strong referral networks) is part of the ethical job.Key Learnings:Use radical self-inquiry coaching to surface patterns without triggering shame: ask “How have I been complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want?” and follow it with curiosity about the hidden benefit (the IPO / intended positive outcome).Tighten coaching vs therapy boundaries by screening for pathology vs non-pathology, and have a plan: build a therapist referral network and agree that the psychotherapist leads the treatment plan if one is involved.Make coaching supervision for coaches non-negotiable: debrief intense client dynamics with a supervisor/peer group so you don’t get pulled into “doing it right” or hiding behind a rigid methodology.Resources:Jerry Colonna's Website: https://www.reboot.io/team/jerry-colonna/Jerry Colonna's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jerrycolonna/Reboot (Book): https://www.reboot.io/reboot-book/Reunion (Book): https://www.reboot.io/reunion-book/Reboot Self-Inquiry Email Course: https://www.reboot.io/resources/Find your Coaching Tool: https://metaFox.euTry the metaFox Strengths Discovery: https://strengths-discovery.comConnect with Tobi on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/tobiasweghornEpisode Chapters:00:00 Coaching vs Therapy Boundaries: When to Bring in a Therapist02:12 What It Means to “Grow Up” + Radical Self-Inquiry Coaching04:34 The “How Have I Been Complicit?” Question (Complicit vs Responsible)09:00 Why Shame, Guilt, and Blame Block Change11:22 Finding the Hidden Benefit: The IPO (Intended Positive Outcome)14:05 Don’t Turn Questions Into a Script: Coaching Presence Over Methodology16:20 Executive Coaching With a Psychoanalytic Perspective: The Reboot Venn Diagram19:10 “Who Are You Really Serving Right Now?” and Ancestral Patterns26:10 How Reboot Bootcamps Work: Safety, Container, Dyads/Triads33:10 Pathology vs Non-Pathology + Coaching Supervision for Coaches
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A coaching podcast with Jerry Colonna and Tobias Weghorn, digging into radical self-inquiry coaching and what it really means to “grow up” as a leader and as a human. Jerry shares why the past is always present in executive coaching with a psychoanalytic perspective, and how compassion and curiosity unlock the unconscious patterns that keep clients stuck. You’ll also unpack his well-known “how have I been complicit” question, why “complicit” is different from “responsible,” and how shame and guilt derail real change. The episode also gets practical about coaching vs therapy boundaries, including when to bring in a therapist, and why coaching supervision for coaches (and strong referral networks) is part of the ethical job.Key Learnings:Use radical self-inquiry coaching to surface patterns without triggering shame: ask “How have I been complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want?” and follow it with curiosity about the hidden benefit (the IPO / intended positive outcome).Tighten coaching vs therapy boundaries by screening for pathology vs non-pathology, and have a plan: build a therapist referral network and agree that the psychotherapist leads the treatment plan if one is involved.Make coaching supervision for coaches non-negotiable: debrief intense client dynamics with a supervisor/peer group so you don’t get pulled into “doing it right” or hiding behind a rigid methodology.Resources:Jerry Colonna's Website: https://www.reboot.io/team/jerry-colonna/Jerry Colonna's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jerrycolonna/Reboot (Book): https://www.reboot.io/reboot-book/Reunion (Book): https://www.reboot.io/reunion-book/Reboot Self-Inquiry Email Course: https://www.reboot.io/resources/Find your Coaching Tool: https://metaFox.euTry the metaFox Strengths Discovery: https://strengths-discovery.comConnect with Tobi on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/tobiasweghornEpisode Chapters:00:00 Coaching vs Therapy Boundaries: When to Bring in a Therapist02:12 What It Means to “Grow Up” + Radical Self-Inquiry Coaching04:34 The “How Have I Been Complicit?” Question (Complicit vs Responsible)09:00 Why Shame, Guilt, and Blame Block Change11:22 Finding the Hidden Benefit: The IPO (Intended Positive Outcome)14:05 Don’t Turn Questions Into a Script: Coaching Presence Over Methodology16:20 Executive Coaching With a Psychoanalytic Perspective: The Reboot Venn Diagram19:10 “Who Are You Really Serving Right Now?” and Ancestral Patterns26:10 How Reboot Bootcamps Work: Safety, Container, Dyads/Triads33:10 Pathology vs Non-Pathology + Coaching Supervision for Coaches
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