The Art of Wanting Less Than You're Allowed

Have you ever started to say what you want and pulled yourself back before the sentence was even finished?“I want to be rich — but not wealthy. That doesn’t seem fair.” “I want to take up space — but I’m not ready yet.” “I want to go for that job — but I’ll do another certificate first.”This is the art of wanting less than you’re allowed. And most of us have perfected it without even realising.In this episode I’m exploring the moment the bungee snaps you back — why it happens, where it comes from, and what it means to start building capacity to want more than you’ve decided you’re allowed.I share a story about a library that nobody used, what Gordon Ramsay’s son said that I’ve never forgotten, and my own quiet belief that I could have love or success — but never both.This one is an invitation to notice your edge. You don’t have to do anything with it yet. Just let yourself see it.I have two spaces open this month for The Life Atelier — my 1:1 coaching journey. If this episode landed somewhere real for you, reply to this email or visit emmalavelle.co to find out more. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit emmalavelleco.substack.com/subscribe