EPISODE · Mar 20, 2026 · 51 MIN
The Attachment Truth Every Parent Needs to Know
from Together- The Sacred We · host Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren
If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions please connect with us.Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-callThe Attachment Truth Every Parent Needs to KnowWhat if the moment your child seems "totally fine" without you is actually the most important sign to pay attention to?In this solo episode, Courtney — attachment therapist, somatic therapist, and mama — shares the developmental science that changed everything about how she parents her son Cedar. It's the information she wishes she'd had from day one. And it's something most parents have never heard.You'll Learn:What "defensive attachment" is — and why a happy, unbothered child may actually be in distressThe age children can actually hold connection while you're away (most parents are shocked)Why our culture gaslights mothers about their own instinctsHow to repair attachment ruptures — even ones that have already happenedThe 4 principles to anchor you as a conscious parent right nowTimestamps:[0:00] — Introduction from Mike[1:30] — Sacred We community update: almost 100 five-star ratings![3:00] — The gem Courtney wishes she'd known as a new mama[4:30] — How to receive this without shame[8:00] — What attachment really is: the GPS system for connection[11:00] — The retreat story: Courtney leaves at 6am and what her body said[16:30] — The sacred developmental sequence of attachment explained[18:00] — The 4-hour rule: what age can kids hold connection with distance?[20:00] — Defensive attachment: why your child looks "totally fine"[26:00] — Watching defensive attachment unfold in real time[29:00] — The repair: what Cedar finally said ("You left me. I thought you were gone forever.")[35:00] — Cultural myths that get in the way of this landing[38:00] — The real sacrifices — and the real rewards[45:00] — What it looks like when a child IS ready to be away[47:00] — 4 key principles to anchor you[49:00] — Free PDF download + Gordon Neufeld Institute recommendationResources:📥 Free PDF Guide — https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HIDD6eC6_9fdVbE8UFmBtwvzAhuOZqDy/view?usp=drive_link📖 Gordon Neufeld Institute — Power to Parent online course - https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/📅 Book a free call with Mike or Courtney — https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call💫 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation — https://www.sacredrelating.com/Loved this episode? We're SO close to 100 five-star ratings on Spotify — screenshot your review and email it to us so we can celebrate with you! 💛If you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here:https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4Email:[email protected][email protected]Website:www.itsmikeelliott.comwww.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected]**MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: **https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/allPromo Code: Together15
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If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions please connect with us.Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-callThe Attachment Truth Every Parent Needs to KnowWhat if the moment your child seems "totally fine" without you is actually the most important sign to pay attention to?In this solo episode, Courtney — attachment therapist, somatic therapist, and mama — shares the developmental science that changed everything about how she parents her son Cedar. It's the information she wishes she'd had from day one. And it's something most parents have never heard.You'll Learn:What "defensive attachment" is — and why a happy, unbothered child may actually be in distressThe age children can actually hold connection while you're away (most parents are shocked)Why our culture gaslights mothers about their own instinctsHow to repair attachment ruptures — even ones that have already happenedThe 4 principles to anchor you as a conscious parent right nowTimestamps:[0:00] — Introduction from Mike[1:30] — Sacred We community update: almost 100 five-star ratings![3:00] — The gem Courtney wishes she'd known as a new mama[4:30] — How to receive this without shame[8:00] — What attachment really is: the GPS system for connection[11:00] — The retreat story: Courtney leaves at 6am and what her body said[16:30] — The sacred developmental sequence of attachment explained[18:00] — The 4-hour rule: what age can kids hold connection with distance?[20:00] — Defensive attachment: why your child looks "totally fine"[26:00] — Watching defensive attachment unfold in real time[29:00] — The repair: what Cedar finally said ("You left me. I thought you were gone forever.")[35:00] — Cultural myths that get in the way of this landing[38:00] — The real sacrifices — and the real rewards[45:00] — What it looks like when a child IS ready to be away[47:00] — 4 key principles to anchor you[49:00] — Free PDF download + Gordon Neufeld Institute recommendationResources:📥 Free PDF Guide — https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HIDD6eC6_9fdVbE8UFmBtwvzAhuOZqDy/view?usp=drive_link📖 Gordon Neufeld Institute — Power to Parent online course - https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/📅 Book a free call with Mike or Courtney — https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call💫 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation — https://www.sacredrelating.com/Loved this episode? We're SO close to 100 five-star ratings on Spotify — screenshot your review and email it to us so we can celebrate with you! 💛If you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here:https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4Email:[email protected][email protected]Website:www.itsmikeelliott.comwww.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@[email protected]**MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: **https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/allPromo Code: Together15
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