23. The Avoidance Landscape

We have signals of congruence when body, heart, mind and soul are all saying yes. And we have signals of incongruence. In this episode Iesha explores what we can do with those signals of incongruence besides normalise them or push through them, and that's avoid them. Avoidance is a bigger and more complex landscape than most people realise. Some of our avoidance strategies are things we'd never label as avoidance — things that are genuinely good for us. And that's exactly what makes this worth looking at consciously. In this episode Iesha covers: Why avoidance isn't always dark or destructive, and what it actually is in this context: anything we do to feel better, feel good, raise our energy or distract ourselves, that means the thing that actually needs addressing doesn't get addressed The intelligent feedback system we're always in communion with: body sensations, emotions, thoughts, gut knowing, intuition Why we can do so much work and still not be living aligned, satisfied and soul deep happy When you can name a problem, you don't have a problem anymore, you have a project The landscape: journaling, movement, focusing on another life area, focusing on someone else, spending money, socialising, sex, television, alcohol and other substances The sneaky one: reframing as avoidance  A client story about a carer whose role was gradually hollowed out, and how avoidance built quietly around a misalignment that grew over two years, until the conversation shifted from surviving to project managing toward something aligned The diagnostic question: do you discharge the energy and go back and address the issue ? Or does the thing just never get dealt with? Closing reflection questions to sit with, slowly, like slow release fertiliser: What do I regularly do to feel good or feel better? And is there anything that doesn't get addressed as a result? When something's out of whack, or I get triggered or upset - what do I do? And is there anything that doesn't get dealt with as a result? If you'd like Iesha's skills and expertise on team you while you sit with these questions and project manage what comes from them, you're welcome to get in touch.  This page will take you to a page on my website that describes my coaching pillars, show you the 1-1 coaching options, and allows you to book a single session or a Discovery Call: https://ieshadelune.com.au/offerings/wholistic-coaching/