The Best Sex You're Not Having: How scheduled sex could be the missing link, the psychology of desire and the myth of " in the mood" .

Join host Sally Obermeder and guest Dr Marty Klein, world-renowned sex therapist and author, as they dive deep into one of the most misunderstood ideas in modern relationships: scheduled sex. If you think planning intimacy sounds unromantic, think again. ✓ Why scheduling sex doesn’t kill spontaneity - it actually creates more of it ✓ The biggest myths about “normal” sex lives (and why comparison is killing connection) ✓ What men and women really want when it comes to sex - and how it’s more similar than you think ✓ How to deal with mismatched libidos without blame or shame ✓ Why self-acceptance and communication are the real keys to great sex ✓ The role of mental stimulation and why foreplay starts long before the bedroom ✓ Phones, fatigue and the unseen factors that ruin intimacy ✓ How structured intimacy can unlock more time, presence and play in your relationship Whether you’re navigating a sexual drought, juggling a busy family life, or just want more connection with your partner, this episode is full of empowering, practical and often hilarious insights that can transform the way you think about sex and love. Mentioned Books: Sexual Intelligence – by Dr Marty Klein His Porn, Her Pain – by Dr Marty Klein SWIISH: https://www.swiish.com/ use code UNLOCKED10 (T + C's apply) FOLLOW: https://www.instagram.com/swiish/ https://www.instagram.com/sallyobermeder https://www.instagram.com/maha_corbett Guest: Dr Marty Klein https://www.martyklein.com 🎧 Episode Chapters 00:00 – Are You Even Present? Why your partner may be physically there… but not sexually available 01:30 – What’s Normal Anyway? How many times couples really have sex - and why it doesn’t matter 03:00 – Scheduling Sex 101: Why planning sex can actually make it hotter 05:30 – The Romance Myth: Why spontaneity isn’t the secret to great sex 08:00 – The Picnic Analogy: How planning creates space for freedom and fun 10:00 – Adulting & Intimacy: How grown-ups can reclaim connection amidst chaos 12:00 – Phones, Screens & Bedroom Blues: Why tech is tanking your sex life 14:00 – Date Night ≠ Sex Night: Why emotional connection matters (with or without sex) 16:00 – Desire Discrepancy: What to do when one partner wants it more 18:30 – Sex or Scrabble? Understanding the real roadblocks to desire 21:00 – Respect, Trust & Safety: Why emotional climate matters more than technique 23:00 – The Nose Analogy: Why ignoring boundaries ruins sex 26:00 – Creating Erotic Anticipation: How to build connection before the bedroom 28:00 – The Truth About Men & Women: Why sexual needs converge over time 30:00 – Schedule Availability, Not Sex :The subtle mindset shift that changes everything 32:00 – More Than Just Sex: How intimacy planning ripples into the rest of your life 34:00 – Top 3 Tips: The keys to better sex at any age This one’s honest, raw, real - and might just be the conversation that changes everything. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.