The capacity of embracing & releasing intimacy

the central nervous system is is attached or associated with with it with matriarchy the difference is that with patriarchy the female is owned or subjected, or is obliged to obey and serve the husband or the partner, the reality of it is when. that void. There's a void where you don't have anybody to to tell you what to do. Or like you don't have a somebody saying well, wash my clothes, do my, do the dishes or like giving you direction I just the whole need to have space, somebody to occupy that space. Even if you adopt a dog or a cat or indoor pet animal, the female, energy that is associated with the female nervous system is so profound I in that sense it's so devastating for older women who are involved in patriarchy that that when you become a senior or or past like in your 50s or 60s that it's so difficult it's so difficult to to uh, like sort of deconstruct your central nervous system so, so that you're not triggered. You're not triggered with moments of intimacy in like where, where's the intimacy? I'm going to die alone. Just the whole like something's happening to me. I'm going insane those, those triggers females don't really get until like they're older because you know it takes at least five years when a woman has, has, gone through childbirth. That all her home, hormones and just the way the brain her brain is restructured to take care of a child. In that process she's she's lost her identity and after five years she regains it back because you know, the the matriarchy or the taking care of children is so instinctive, so profound that that same network of central nervous system really plays into intimacy and trust and healthy human sexuality, again, too, if that's, if you've been up for me, it's like a trauma bond. But in a patriarchal sense, like it's a trauma bond because you're, you're, you're not acting independently like a woman. You're you're, you're, you're acting in response to the needs of a man and that's where some of the problems, I think with Indigenous women come when it comes to lateral violence and in terms of supporting victims of violence I think there's there's a problem cross culturally when it when it's really not patriarchy you know like they're, they're trying to understand patriarchy in a sort of twisted way because they were raised matriarch. But the identity of healthy, female gender and our capacity sometimes we've, we've managed to not totally be open minded about it, so I'm hoping this podcast does shine a little bit of uh, insight into this process, I may have been a little vague in some areas but I'm hoping I had there is some clarity and what I have to say because there is a there is a generational difference III can see that younger women do understand, quite a quite a bit about trauma, bonds and justice. The the terms in psychology or social work however, I think with younger women, if you haven't been raised or born into your community and if your community is very patriarchal oriented, then there's a problem of deconstructing into matriarchy uh, it's such a provocative and sort of convoluted way of saying, this is my interpretation of why human trafficking or sexual violence or family violence is so distorted. And how you can pull space for victims of violence when you yourself are so triggered that you just can't even cope, so you project all that hate, About Who you believe you are onto other people. umm. I find that. So in terms of my telling the story of Nathan chasing ours I think a lot of times people don't realize that they're projecting that massage onto me.