The Chaos of Being a Mom!

The Chaos of Being a Mom – Interview with Kimberly KeaneKim Keane is a certified life coach, Reiki and IET practitioner, and podcaster. Kim has addressed community organizations, schools and colleges, such as Boys’ and Girls’ Club and Purdue University as well as women’s groups, such as Polka Dot Powerhouse and Moms Who Dare. She strives to empower women to embrace who they are so they can be and do all that they aspire to. Kim is here on Calming the Chaos podcast to talk about specific challenges and chaos of being a Mom in today’s world, and offer Moms some ways to become empowered, embrace who they are and be and do all that they aspire to do in their lives. Let’s honor our Moms on Mother’s Day! Notable Timestamps:2:25 to 4:42 - Introduction to Kim You can do energy healing, including Reiki ONLINE!6:09 – Addressing the most common concerns Moms have in today’s worldMom Guilt – The expectation that we have to “do it all” and “to the highest standards”Unrealistic expectations, perfectionism, comparing yourself with others How Moms experience both guilt and shame Guilt – “I’ve done something wrong”Shame – “I am something wrong”8:30 – How do we help Moms get through “Mom Guilt”• Find out where the guilt comes from – “Who is telling me that I’m not doing Motherhood right?”• Identifying the “made-up stories” you tell yourself about how good of a Mom you are• Noticing how you compare yourself to other Moms, and finding yourself lacking• Letting go of comparisons with realistic thinking – you never know what is happening in other families• Therapy can help you learn to notice what your body feels like when you feel the guilt• Notice and identify the triggers, perceptions in your mind• Checking the facts – separating the truth from the “made up stories.” Putting your Guilt on Trial• Identify your values and separate them from other Mom’s values – Live in alignment with YOUR values15:00 – The working Moms and the Stay-at-home Mom have the same struggle• Setting up a routine is important – plan out your time and set boundaries with family members• “I need your help, children / partner”• Relinquish control• The whole family gets used to a new routine17:19 – 19:00 Kim’s routine she set for herself and how her family has cooperated with her!19:18 – Kim answers Tracy’s follow up questions:1. How do you get your kids / partner to understand why a plan is so important?2. How do you convince them to cooperate with you?Time Management 23:00 - How did Kim become so good at time management? www.flylady.net• Focus on fewer tasks in a bullet journal (she found them on Pinterest)• Finding pockets of time during the day for tasksThe Pandemic 26:00 As we’re shifting out of it, some Moms are getting judged and / or criticized others or self29:30 – Dealing with ALL of the critics (others and self) and remembering your values, using intuitionSchool Violence / Bullying / The School System / Conflict32:36 – Understanding all of the possible reasons why a person might bully others, all the dynamics, and understanding who they are individually, what values they stand for, so that they don’t become bullies34:47 – Identify feelings and asking adults and others for help35:00 – 38:30 What if YOUR kid is the bully? (Discipline and communication tips from Kim) – Getting to the root and both parents and kids make adjustments.Divorce39:04 - How Kim works with Moms who are considering divorce or who are divorced“What’s the motivation for leaving or staying?” “Is it a healthy...