The Children Are Not Alright - On foster care, love, grief, and the lies we tell ourselves

What does it feel like to love a child with all your heart, only to have the system tear them away? In this deeply personal conversation, international foster care expert and TEDx speaker Dr. John DeGarmo takes us inside the emotional world of fostering over 60 children. The episode explores the unseen toll of foster care, the grief, the love, and the quiet moments of betrayal that shape a foster parent’s life.John DeGarmo, a foster parent for over two decades, author, and global advocate for child welfare, shares the raw realities of his journey. From the first night he realized he wasn’t ready, to the heartbreak of failed adoptions, John reveals the emotional weight of fostering: compassion fatigue, burnout, and the struggle to keep going despite the system’s failures. Stories like that of Sydney, a girl who slipped through the cracks, illustrate the human cost of a broken child welfare system. Yet, amid the heartbreak, John also shares moments of joy and resilience that make the hard work worthwhile.Why listen?Hear the emotional realities of fostering, from the first child to the ones that changed John forever.Explore the grief, love, and lies we tell ourselves to keep going in a system that often feels stacked against you.Understand the emotional toll of foster care, including compassion fatigue, burnout, and the struggle to balance love with self-preservation.Discover moments of hope and healing that remind us why this work matters.Gain insights into how to support foster children and parents in a system that often fails them.This episode is a must-listen for foster parents, social workers, educators, or anyone who cares about the well-being of children. Whether you’re exploring foster care as a parent, working in child protection, or simply want to understand the human side of systemic failures, John’s story will leave you with new perspectives and a deeper understanding of the emotional journey of fostering.Keywords: Foster care, child welfare, emotional toll of fostering, foster parent burnout, grief and loss in foster care, systemic failures in child protection, parenting trauma, foster care stories, foster care challenges, foster parent experiences, child welfare system, foster care support, foster care advocacy, foster parent training, foster care and mental health, foster care and love, foster care and grief. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.