The Comments That Stopped Us In Our Tracks | SEXLESS MARRIAGE POC47

You responded to our last few episodes about Sexless Relationships, in a way we didn't expect. Thousands of comments. Hundreds of stories. Some of them stopped us mid-session.This week, Elliot and Lottie sit down to read and respond to YOUR comments - the ones that were raw, unfiltered, and at times, devastating. Men who have been living in sexless marriages for 10, 20, even 30 years. Women reflecting on their own role in the breakdown. People asking the question they've never been able to ask out loud.We respond as therapists. Honestly. Without judgment. In this episode:Why "you get what you tolerate" cuts deeper than it soundsThe difference between guilt and shame in intimate rejectionWhen infidelity becomes the conversation a couple never hadWhat it means for a man when sex becomes a transactionHow one person changing can shift the entire relationship dynamicThe question that changes everything: "Who have I become in this relationship?"This is not a blame episode. This is not a fix-your-partner episode. This is a real conversation about what happens to good people inside broken intimacy dynamics - and what the path forward actually looks like.Leave a comment below. We read every single one.Subscribe for new episodes every week. 3 Therapists. 1 Honest Conversation.Watch POC 46 - She Wants Everything But Gives Nothing:THE PARADOX OF CHANGE3 Therapists. 1 Honest Conversation.We believe there has to be an I before the We.Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/ ⁨@theparadoxofchange⁩  CHAPTERS00:00 The Comments That Stopped Us00:35 Why We're Reading Your Comments Live01:51 "Men Need More Than Just Sex" - Mike's Comment03:29 "She Made Me Feel Like a Sex Pest in My Own Marriage"04:22 Guilt vs Shame - What's the Difference?06:09 "I Lost Her and All My Friends in a Single Minute"10:00 How to Set a Boundary Without Showing Weakness12:16 "Never Forgive a Cheater" - Zero Tolerance vs Reality14:31 When You Stop Wanting Sex With Your Own Partner16:19 Dissolve or Evolve - Therapy as the Decision Point17:55 "I Want Sex - But Not With You"21:42 If She Takes Sex Off the Table, What Happens to Monogamy?25:00 "The Sexless Is Literally Killing Me" - 30 Years27:20 You Get What You Tolerate - Who Have You Become?31:44 The Female Perspective - Trauma, Shame and Blockage34:23 "Who Have I Become in This Relationship?"36:43 Height, Self-Worth and the 5'7" Speech39:32 "She Let Herself Go" - Is Physical Attraction an Excuse?40:27 It Only Takes ONE Person to Change a Relationship42:23 Subscribe and See You Next Episode📝 Take the Relationship Assessment TEST: https://theparadoxofchange.com/Questi...📖 Knowledge Article: https://theparadoxofchange.com/Knowledge📌 Work with us:Book a session: [https://theparadoxofchange.com/GetThe...]Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange📱 Follow us:Instagram: [  / theparadoxofchange  ]Podcast: [https://theparadoxofchange.buzzsprout...]🤝 Sponsor: This episode is supported by www.ourbizz.com🌐 Other ways to connect with us:Book Therapy with Elliot, Lottie or Fi & Access Resources: https://theparadoxofchange.comListen to the Podcast: https://theparadoxofchange.buzzsprout...Follow on Instagram: @theparadoxofchangeExplore All Links: https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange#sexlessmarriage #relationshipadvice #couplestherapyhttps://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchangeHow to find us: https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange