The Consequences of Ruminating on a Friendship Issue

Three weeks ago you and a friend exchanged heated words at a group dinner and you’ve been left feeling a mix of regret, anger and embarrassment. Since then, you’ve been reliving every detail of what happened over and over again, replaying what you both said, what her words might have meant, and whether or not this indicates that she’s been getting increasingly frustrated with you over the past year.   This negative and unproductive overthinking is called rumination, and in today’s episode, our resident friendship expert Danielle Bayard Jackson talks about the consequences of rumination, and particularly the impact it can have on our relationships, due to the ways in which it can hamper our ability to reconcile with friends. Danielle shares her acronym ‘IDEA’ to cover the four key reasons why rumination can be so dangerous and damaging when it comes to our relationships.   Tune in to find out more, and as always, stay tuned to the end for this week's homework.  REFERENCES: STUDY - "Socialized to Ruminate? Gender Role Mediates the Sex Difference in Rumination for Interpersonal Events" -   https://spu.edu/depts/SPFC/clinicalpsych/training-research/faculty-research-teams/ace-lab/documents/2011-26235-002.pdf   Click the ‘Follow’ button now to not miss an episode. And remember, you can send us your questions on Instagram or at www.betterfemalefriendships.com To explore more of Danielle’s friendship expertise, connect with her at www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson   Stay updated with the latest episodes and podcast updates at https://www.instagram.com/friendforward   **OFFER ENDS ON OCTOBER 1st** Sign up for Danielle’s Friendship Elevated, a 12-week program for modern women who want to experience a real transformation in their female friendship landscape: https://www.betterfemalefriendships.com/membership   Book a private coaching session with Danielle at www.betterfemalefriendships.com/coaching   Join our private group chat for extra resources, at https://www.patreon.com/friendforward Book Danielle to speak at your upcoming conference or event, by emailing [email protected]