EPISODE · Apr 24, 2026 · 30 MIN
The Cost Of Being Right
from More In Common · host More In Common Podcast
What are you willing to sacrifice for the feeling of being right? This week Keith and Gerren get into why needing to win isn't just an ego problem — it's a neurological one. Being wrong activates the same brain regions as physical pain. Your brain generates counter arguments instead of evaluating evidence. And when your identity gets fused to your ideas, any challenge to what you believe feels existential. They also get into why the Socratic method has never actually changed anyone's mind, what intellectual humility looks like in practice, and the therapist quote that sums up the whole thing in eleven words: you can be right, or you can have a relationship. Key Topics: The neuroscience of being wrong, identity fusion and belief, the dopamine reward loop of winning arguments, intellectual humility, and what it actually takes to reset how we relate to each other. Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Charlie Bloom — on being right vs relationships → https://www.huffpost.com/author/charlie-bloom Find Us: 🌐 https://www.moreincommonent.com 📸 https://www.instagram.com/moreincommonent 🐦 https://twitter.com/MoreInCommonent 📘 https://www.facebook.com/moreincommonpod Like what you heard? Leave us a comment in your podcast app. It genuinely helps more people find the show. See you next week.
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What are you willing to sacrifice for the feeling of being right? This week Keith and Gerren get into why needing to win isn't just an ego problem — it's a neurological one. Being wrong activates the same brain regions as physical pain. Your brain generates counter arguments instead of evaluating evidence. And when your identity gets fused to your ideas, any challenge to what you believe feels existential. They also get into why the Socratic method has never actually changed anyone's mind, what intellectual humility looks like in practice, and the therapist quote that sums up the whole thing in eleven words: you can be right, or you can have a relationship. Key Topics: The neuroscience of being wrong, identity fusion and belief, the dopamine reward loop of winning arguments, intellectual humility, and what it actually takes to reset how we relate to each other. Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Charlie Bloom — on being right vs relationships → https://www.huffpost.com/author/charlie-bloom Find Us: 🌐 https://www.moreincommonent.com 📸 https://www.instagram.com/moreincommonent 🐦 https://twitter.com/MoreInCommonent 📘 https://www.facebook.com/moreincommonpod Like what you heard? Leave us a comment in your podcast app. It genuinely helps more people find the show. See you next week.
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