The Counseling Convos Podcast Season 3 Episode 4: Beyond Couple's Feuds

🎙️ Beyond Couples Feud Season 3, Episode 4 — Counseling Convos with Geries Shaheen, LPCIn this heart-level, brain-powered episode of Counseling Convos, host Geries Shaheen, LPC, NCC untangles a rising challenge in couples therapy: when well-meaning resourcing or clarifying questions are perceived as gaslighting.How do we hold space for deep relational wounds without being caught in the crossfire? What happens when trauma-informed clients feel retraumatized—by the very act of inquiry?In Beyond Couples Feud, we explore the tension between therapeutic neutrality and emotional safety. We unpack real-world scripts, interventions, and referral practices that honor autonomy, create clarity, and help clients move from relational shutdown to connection.💡 Topics include:Gaslighting vs. clarifying: when the line gets blurryHow trauma and attachment shape emotional responses in sessionScripts for rebuilding safety in real timeWhen and how to refer for sex therapy with compassion and clarityThe philosophical differences between LPCs and LMFTsEvidence-based interventions for common couples conflictsWhether you're a clinician, a couple navigating your own journey, or a curious listener who loves diving deep into the psychology of relationships, this episode brings rich tools, thoughtfulness, and just the right amount of meta-reflection.🎧 Subscribe and join us as we go beyond conflict—and toward repair.🔍 Cited Research & Resources:Carlson, D. L., Miller, A. J., Sassler, S., & Hanson, S. (2020). The division of housework, gender, and perceived fairness. Journal of Family Issues, 41(7), 1163–1186.Dew, J., & Stewart, R. (2012). A financial issue or marital issue? Family Relations, 61(4), 615–628.Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2015). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Harmony Books.Johnson, S. M., & Greenman, P. S. (2013). Emotionally focused couple therapy. Psychotherapy in Australia, 19(3), 56.Rogge, R. D., et al. (2013). The CARE program. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 81(6), 1022.Weeks, G. R., Hertlein, K. M., & Gambescia, N. (2016). A Clinician’s Guide to Systemic Sex Therapy. Routledge.White, M., & Epston, D. (1990). Narrative Means to Therapeutic Ends. Norton & Company.Wiebe, S. A., & Johnson, S. M. (2016). Emotionally focused therapy review. Family Process, 55(3), 390–407.Williams, M. J., & Zweig, J. S. (2015). CBT for jealousy. Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy, 45(2), 83–91.