The Crisis No One Wants to Admit Men Are In w/ Josh Tomeoni

Masculine energy isn’t about dominance or detachment. It’s about how men face loss, responsibility, and the slow work of becoming whole. It is at the centre of Josh Tomeoni’s work, who is our guest today. Josh is a men’s coach specializing in divorce recovery and the host of The Derelict Podcast. In his podcast, he speaks candidly about men’s mental health, emotional growth, and the challenges men face when navigating relationships, addiction, and identity. His perspective is shaped not by abstract theory. It is years of lived experience mentoring men, participating in recovery communities, and walking through his own divorce. From an early age, Josh demonstrates an instinct to bring men back into connection. One of his earliest memories is noticing a boy being excluded and deliberately pulling him into the group. That same instinct, to see men, support them, and challenge them, continues to guide his work today. Yet the model of masculinity he grew up with offers little room for emotional awareness. As Josh recalls, men are expected to “figure it out,” push forward, and avoid talking about feelings altogether. Therapy, he says, is viewed as “a complete waste of time” for men. Divorce becomes a turning point that forces a deeper reckoning. Josh begins to see how suppressed emotion, unresolved attachment, and unexamined masculine identity quietly shape men’s lives. “Having somebody that could coach me through these things just made a world of difference,” he explains. Through coaching, recovery work, and self-reflection, Josh develops a vision of masculine energy. It is grounded, accountable, and emotionally intelligent. It is the one that aligns strength with calm rather than avoidance or aggression. This conversation explores how men can move beyond outdated models of manhood and step into healthy masculinity—a form of masculine energy that supports growth, purpose, and connection. For more podcasts, blogs, and to get involved in the Men's Therapy Online Community, visit www.menstherapy.online. Follow us on social media: https://mtr.bio/mens-therapy-online.