The Dark Night Of The Soul (How to Get Through It)

In this episode, I talk about something many of us go through but rarely have language for: the Dark Night of the Soul. It’s that period where everything feels like it’s falling apart—emotionally, spiritually, identity-wise—and you don’t recognize yourself or your life anymore. I break down where this concept comes from, what it actually feels like when you’re in it, and why it’s not a sign that you’re broken or doing life wrong. I share how the Dark Night is often a necessary collapse—an ending of old identities, coping mechanisms, and survival strategies that once protected you but no longer fit. We talk about grief, surrender, and the discomfort of sitting in the unknown instead of trying to fix or bypass it. I also explain why trying to “positive-think” your way out of this phase usually backfires, and why feeling the pain is often the doorway to real healing. Most importantly, I offer reassurance and perspective for anyone in the middle of it right now. This isn’t the end of your story—it’s a turning point. With self-care, support, and a willingness to let the process unfold, something new and more aligned is being born on the other side. The darkness has a purpose, and the dawn really does come. Work with me: sabrinabendory.com Get the book: "Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible." Follow me! Instagram: @sabrinabendory - @youwillbeokpodcast #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #DarkNightoftheSoul #emotionalcollapse #spiritualtransformation #self-care #healingprocess #identitychange #copingmechanisms #grief #surrender #unknown #realhealing #personalgrowth See show notes: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices