The DBT Skill That Heals You by Helping Others

Episode SummaryWhen emotions feel overwhelming, our instinct is to turn inward, but that can keep us stuck.In this episode, I share a simple and often overlooked DBT skill: contributing. Doing something kind or helpful for someone else can shift your focus, regulate your nervous system, and build a sense of purpose - for both you and your kids.Key Takeaways* Contributing shifts you out of emotional spirals by moving your focus outward* It builds self-efficacy (the belief that you can make a difference)* Kindness improves mental health - this is backed by research* Small acts are enough (and more effective than big ones)* Giving without recognition can feel especially regulatingTry ThisDo one small act of kindness this week - without expecting anything in return.Then notice:* How you feel* What shifts internally* The impact on othersReflection* What’s one way I can contribute today?* How do I feel after helping someone else?* How can I help my child or students practice this skill?Small actions create meaningful change.Cope well. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit ashleydeluccia.substack.com/subscribe