The Difference Between Codependency vs. Interdependent

So many people fall into codependent relationships without realizing it. As an exercise, think about a relationship with a close friend, parent or even romantic partner, and think about how you interact with that person. Are both parties benefiting from that interaction? Do both parties give and take equally? Or, do you find yourself being the one that is overgiving and overfunctioning just to please the individual without getting much in return?    What is codependency? A quick definition of it is when people have a hard time forming healthy relationships. One’s sense of self-worth and value is dependent on the other person, and rather than being able to work on their own self-worth from within, their reward by external measures. They base their mood on their partner’s mood. Codependent people will often neglect their own needs and wants to focus on their partner instead.    What is interdependency? Is when you have a shared mutual dependence. Two people coming together to form a healthy ‘us’. Each person has their ability to have their own identity and their own joy. Together, they have each other and themselves.    Signs of a codependent relationship? You’re always together and never truly have a moment when you’re just by yourself. You feel like you have to ask permission to hang out with your friends, instead of being able to see them intentionally. You feel more concerned about your partner’s opinions and are willing to squash your own opinions to keep them happy.    What does an interdependent relationship look like? They have boundaries! They are set and they are respected. There is compromise and there is healthy communication on what both feel comfortable and uncomfortable about. They also have their own opinions, but they also consider their partner’s opinions also. They are their own person cohabiting with another person. It’s all about complimenting each other, not completing each other.    Continue Your Growth Journey: Kaminiwood.com