The Dojo S19E19 – Trad Wives, Bisexual Men & Why Modern Marriage Is Broken

In this episode, the crew hosts the final audience-participation recording of The Dojo and opens with retirement annuities, inheritance, estate taxes and the financial realities families face when a loved one dies. Women’s Day then sparks a heated debate about whether the holiday has become another Valentine’s Day, why today’s women expect to be personally celebrated, and whether independence has genuinely liberated women or simply left them carrying both corporate and domestic responsibilities.From there, the conversation turns to traditional wives, stay-at-home mothers and the danger of building your entire life around a man who can one day decide to leave. The crew debates whether a single-income household is still realistic, how capitalism has forced both partners into the workplace, why some men still expect working women to fulfil traditional duties, and whether marriage contracts, shared property and financial independence can ever truly protect someone from divorce.The audience joins in as the discussion expands into marriage, lobola, family expectations and the difficult balance between choosing a partner for yourself and choosing someone capable of fitting into the wider family. The crew questions whether marriage is still about love or has become an economic and cultural arrangement, why long-term relationships require constant evolution, and how people raised in single-parent and two-parent homes may carry completely different ideas of commitment, conflict and family life.Things get even messier when the crew asks whether straight women would date bisexual men. That opens a brutally honest conversation about masculinity, homophobia, sexuality, cheating, competition and why people feel differently when their partner is attracted to both men and women. They also debate whether relationships are damaged by our desire to “own” people, whether consensual non-monogamy is more honest than cheating, and how a hypersexual society is reshaping intimacy, identity and the way children understand sex.The audience then brings up men borrowing money from women, love scams and whether gender equality means women should also be willing to financially support their partners. This leads back into a wider discussion about successful men gaining access to more women, wives receiving the burdened version of their husbands while outsiders get the fun version, and whether providing financially is enough when someone is emotionally absent from the marriage.The episode closes on a more reflective note as younger listeners ask the crew for advice about marriage, responsibility, personal growth and becoming the person their future family will need. Long-time supporters share heartfelt stories about discovering The Dojo, finding community through the podcast and having their values challenged over the years. As the second-last episode draws to a close, the final audience participation becomes both a classic chaotic Dojo debate and an emotional tribute to the impact the podcast has had over its ten-year journey.