The Dynamics of Shame | Dr Eliat Aram | Reach Minds - Thoughts for your Life Journey

Episode 5 – The Dynamic of Shame  Welcome to our 5th episode on Reach Minds – ‘Thoughts for your life journey’ podcast. In this episode, we will explore the dynamics of shame, its occurrence, and strategies for managing it. Shame is around us, inside us, and between us, embodying difficult feelings. I first encountered the concept of shame through Brené Brown’s extensive work on the topic. However, it wasn’t until my supervision course at the Tavistock Institute of Human Relations that I truly began to understand how shame is integral to our learning and relational experiences. It often arises from the need to be seen and the fear of being judged by others. In this episode, we also explore how shame relates to and differs from embarrassment, humiliation, and guilt. Today, I am joined by Dr. Eliat Aram, who has been the CEO of the Tavistock Institute of Human Relations for the past 16 years. Eliat is a Chartered Director (IOD), a Chartered Psychologist (BPS), a UKCP registered Gestalt and Humanistic psychotherapist and supervisor, and a pioneering member of the Complexity and Management Centre at Hertfordshire University. Her theoretical understanding spans complexity theory, organizational studies, Gestalt psychotherapy theory, and system psychodynamics. She is a keen practitioner of the TIHR’s Group Relations enterprise ‘learning through experience practice’ and has directed dozens of Group Relations conferences internationally, including the ‘Leicester conference’ since 2007. You can find out more about Eliat Aram by visiting the Tavistock Institute of Human Relations (TIHR) website https://www.tavinstitute.org In this podcast we pose the following questions on shame? How would you define the dynamic of shame?  What role does culture and society play in shaping our understanding of shame? What are the common triggers for shame?  How does shame does it differ from guilt? Is Shame universal?  What are some effective methods or practices for overcoming shame?  Resources Mentioned in This Episode:  https://www.tavinstitute.org You can find out more about Eliat Aram by going on to the Tavistock institute human relations website https://www.tavinstitute.org Winnie the Pooh. A.A Milne  2992_FETL_Shame-within-organisational-life-web-1 Jean Paul Sartre  in Being and nothingness 1956)    Here are the main books where she delves into the subject of shame: Brené Brown has written extensively on the topic of shame, with several of her books focusing on this theme. Here are the main books where she delves into the subject of shame: 1. **"I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't): Making the Journey from 'What Will People Think?' to 'I Am Enough'" (2007)** 2. **"The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are" (2010)**   3. **"Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead" (2012)** 4. **"Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead" (2015)**    5. **"Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone" (2017)**    6. **"Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts." (2018)** These books collectively provide a comprehensive understanding of shame, its effects, and how to build resilience against it, all while embracing vulnerability and authenticity.