The Ex-Seventh Day Adventist and Sexuality Episode

from They Talk Sex · host Elle Stanger

Our guest grew up in a fundamentalist Seventh Day Adventist church and led a life of rebellion after she left it. High powered jobs and risky hookups shaped Melissa Duge Spiers before she learned that her father was a serial child predator shielded from the church, and thus began another stage in her reconstruction of self. Let’s talk about her memoir; called “Holy Disobedience - Sex, Sin, and Secrets in the Biggest Church No One Knows”. 2:00 leaving the church 4:00 leaning into the violent things7:00 family predators and patterns9:00 what is a “mass tort”?13:00 how SDA primed her for abusive relationships16:00 humor about sexual assault20:00 a book event in Portland?25:00 how to deal with social isolation30:00 how to handle sex-repulsion feelings34:00 opposition to her 37:00 “Adventist Risk Management”40:00 abusing a weiner dog! James Dobson44:00 SDA vs Catholics47:00 who owns the eatery?50:00 atheism today and sex tipsFIND YOUR GUEST: TT & IG @the.glory.whole & @melissadugespiers_writer FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

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Our guest grew up in a fundamentalist Seventh Day Adventist church and led a risky life of rebellion after she left it. High powered jobs and risky hookups shaped Melissa Duge Spiers before she learned that her father was a serial child predator shielded from the church, and thus began another stage in her reconstruction of self. Let’s talk about her memoir; called “Holy Disobedience - Sex, Sin, and Secrets in the Biggest Church No One Knows”.

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