The First Step to Confidence (Real Work My Coaching Clients Do)

Text Jule :)How to build real confidence is one of the most common goals people come to me for, and the truth is that it starts with self-trust, not with the affirmation cards and power poses you find on Google. The real work is excavating your past to find a belief you keep carrying that isn’t true.I share the story of how my dad spent my childhood telling me my voice was annoying, and how that one belief got so loud in my head that I ignored dozens of podcast invitations for years because I was too ashamed to be heard. I walk you through the day when it finally shifted for me, and the small first action that took me from never appearing on podcasts to guesting on over 50 shows.Topics covered in this episode:Why affirmations, power poses, and feel-good quotes are not the actual work of building confidenceHow growing up emotionally repressed shaped the way I handled, or really didn’t handle, my own mental healthWhy we believe the things our parents tell us about ourselves, even when those things aren’t trueThe real first step to confidence, and it’s not what most of the personal development space sells youHow shame thrives in the dark and why saying it out loud is one of the best ways to dispel itThe exact message I’d send to make amends for something I avoided for yearsHow to pick a first action that’s big or small enough for wherever you actually are right nowWhy taking that one step becomes the proof you need to take the next oneIf your self-esteem has been spiraling and you just want one place to start, this one’s for you.If you liked this episode, also check out episode 2: How to Build Confidence that Actually Lasts from Oct 30, 2025.Support the showInterested in coaching with Jule?LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekimJule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on AmazonWays to Support This Podcast:🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.