The Fix-It Trap: Shame, Body Image and the Search for Wholeness with Kate Gies #97

Have you ever thought, If I just fixed that one thing, I'd finally feel OK? In this episode of Enough, the Podcast, we're talking about body image, shame, and the quiet fix-it logic so many women live inside — especially in midlife. My guest, Kate Gies, was born without an ear and underwent 14 reconstructive surgeries as a child, each one promising to finally make her whole. What she learned — far earlier than most of us — is that fixing the body rarely delivers the relief it promises. This conversation isn't about giving up on your appearance. It's about questioning what you're asking your appearance to do for you. We explore: Why the beauty industry relies on low-grade shame to keep us fixing How body image becomes a stand-in for deeper questions about worth The myth that one more improvement will finally make you feel enough What wholeness looks like when it isn't tied to perfection How to tell the difference between choice and conditioning If you've ever negotiated with your reflection… If you care about how you look and resent how much it matters… If you're curious about what changes when appearance stops being proof of your worth… This episode will land. Press play and consider what might be driving your appearance-related decisions – zero judgment; no fixing (or solutions;) just pure curiosity.    LINKS Kate Gies's website (and her book, It Must Beautiful To Be Finished). Kate Gies on Instagram. Mandy Lehto on Instagram.