The Follow-Up: 5 Science-Backed Parenting Principles

In this episode, we’re joined by Dr. Aliza Pressman (@raisinggoodhumanspodcast), developmental psychologist, author, and host of the Raising Good Humans podcast, to break down her science-backed framework for parenting: the 5 R’s — Reflection, Regulation, Rules, Repair, and Relationship. These five simple but powerful principles aren’t just theory — they’re practical tools you can apply to everyday challenges like screen time, sibling fights, and meltdowns. Dr. Pressman shares how these core ideas help build strong, connected relationships with our kids, even when things get messy. We also talk about: Why repair is more powerful than perfection How to stay grounded when parenting triggers old wounds What makes parenting advice helpful vs. overwhelming How to parent with intention, not fear Whether you're deep in toddler tantrums or navigating the teen years, this episode will help you feel more confident, calm, and connected. Want more? Enjoy the full episode at PedsDocTalk.com 00:00 – Welcome to The Follow Up with Dr. Mona 00:32 – Meet Dr. Aliza Pressman and the 5 Principles of Parenting 01:13 – What Are the 5 R’s and Why Do They Matter? 02:08 – Applying the 5 R’s to Real Life (Example: Screen Time) 05:56 – How to Regulate Yourself Before Setting Limits 07:02 – Why It Feels Hard—But Gets Easier 08:35 – Parenting Is a Long Game 09:13 – Finding the Balance Between Advice Overload and Chaos 10:39 – What the Science Says (Without Getting Overwhelmed) 11:48 – Developmental Nuggets That Shift Perspective 12:56 – When In Doubt, Come Back to the 5 R’s 13:07 – Final Words + Where to Learn More from Dr. Aliza 13:18 – Dr. Mona’s Closing Message Get trusted pediatric advice, relatable parenting insights, and evidence-based tips delivered straight to your inbox—join thousands of parents who rely on the PDT newsletter to stay informed, supported, and confident. ⁠⁠⁠Join the newsletter⁠⁠⁠! And don’t forget to follow ⁠⁠⁠@pedsdoctalkpodcast⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram—our new space just for parents looking for real talk and real support. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on the PedsDocTalk Podcast Sponsorships page of the website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices