The Goal of Parenting: Why Grades Don't Prepare Kids to Stand at Sinai

We're all feeling the tension: should we speed our kids up to match our schedules, or slow down to match theirs? But there's a better question: What are we actually raising them for? If the answer is just "success" (grades, college, career) we're running them through a system built on anxiety. The real work is building four core qualities that let kids receive genuine purpose: resilience and courage, accountability to something higher than themselves, love of truth, and integrity. These aren't nice-to-haves, they're the foundation that makes everything else meaningful. The system won't build these- we have to, and we can't teach what we don't model.