The Good Daughter Trap: Caring for Aging Parents on Your Terms | Dr. Allison Alford

Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself!Say "Yes!" to travel! Just check your calendar, book your flight, and pack your cute outfits:Edinburgh, Scotland | July 6-10, 2026phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/edinburghCognac Jewelry School, FranceJune 27-July 4, 2026 or August 15-22, 2026: phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/cognac-jewellery-school-summer-foundations2027 Foundations: phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/cognac-jewellery-school-summer-foundations-2027In this episode, Wendy sits down with Dr. Allison Alford, author of Good Daughtering, a researcher who spent 10 years studying what it means to be a good daughter to aging parents. Dr. Allison introduces the concept of being a "B-plus daughter"—showing up and doing the work without the unnecessary striving for A++ perfection in every role.They explore:Why we're grading ourselves on imaginary scorecards (and who's doing the grading anyway)The difference between hedonic happiness (fun in the moment) and eudaemonic happiness (life well lived)Why obligation doesn't mean unhappiness, and how to get comfortable with thatThis is a conversation about recognizing you're already doing it. Dr. Allison shares why women need more language for discussing daughtering, why we create expectations no one actually gave us, and how to give yourself permission to be enough exactly as you are.Connect with Dr. Allison:Instagram @daughtering101Daughtering101.comReferenced in this Episode:Martin Seligman - Positive Psychology Center: https://ppc.sas.upenn.edu/people/martin-ep-seligmanOn Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen: https://a.co/d/0fGeOtwQ________________________________________________________________________________________Connect with Wendy:LinkedinInstagram: @wendy.harropFacebook: Phineas Wright HouseWebsite: Phineas Wright House PWH Farm StaysPWH Curated Experience and TravelInterested in being a guest on the show? Send your pitch to [email protected] Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a  5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.