The GOOD GIRL'S Guide to Great SEX w/ Sheila Wray Gregoire, MA - Author and Speaker

“My biggest piece of advice for the wedding night: Don’t aim for intercourse, aim for arousal.⁠ ♥️⁠ Christian women experience sexual pain at twice the rate of the general population… so this is OUR problem. I think a large part of that is due to the rushing for intercourse on the wedding night, even if she’s been looking forward to sex her whole life.⁠ ♥️⁠ The reason we tell dating couples to avoid lying down on a couch together and making out is because once you start in that progression, it can be hard to stop. The couples that avoid those things when they’re dating often end up completely skipping steps on their wedding night. They’re thinking, 'Now we can have sex, so why would you do all those middle things?'⁠ ♥️⁠ That’s why I ask couples to ask themselves why it is that those middle things are arousing? Why is making out while your hands wander arousing?⁠ It’s often because you’re not aiming for anything — you’re just enjoying each other. You’re taking a really long time and you’re RELAXED together.⁠ ♥️⁠ What happens for many couples on their wedding night is that they feel like they have to have sex… so they take off their clothes and try intercourse. In the surveys that we did, a lot of women said that they were not aroused the first time they had sex and that’s a problem…⁠ ♥️⁠ Instead of aiming for intercourse on your wedding night, aim for arousal so you can stay relaxed together. I know it’s really difficult because you’ve been looking forward to this your whole life, but just trust me on this one.” — Sheila Wray Gregoire, MA⁠ ♥️⁠ Listen in to hear the much-needed conversation we have with award-winning author/public speaker, Sheila Wray Gregoire.⁠ Sheila recommended: The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire 31 Days to Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregoire The Orgasm Course Boost Your Libido Course You can reach Sheila at: www.tolovehonorandvacuum.com [email protected]   Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com   Join us for the next Monthly Live Date Night where we dig into some of these topics with you LIVE for 90 minutes this month! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices