"The Grass is Greener Where We Water It," Episode #168, March 19, 2026

The Grass is Greener Where We Water It Living Compass Spirituality and Wellness Podcast Lent 2026 Series: Cultivating Healing and Wholeness in Heart, Soul, Strength, and Mind Episode Summary We've all heard it: the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. But what if we changed the saying — and changed our lives in the process? In this episode, Scott Stoner explores how envy and comparison quietly drain our relationships, and offers a simple but transformative reframe: the grass is greener where we water it. Drawing on 40 years as a minister and licensed marriage and family therapist, Scott unpacks what it actually looks like to tend the relationships we already have — with intention, honesty, and love. Key Themes How social media amplifies the comparison trap — showing us everyone's "outsides" while we live our own "insides" Why envy is a natural human emotion, and how to redirect its energy The Living Compass core principle: whatever we pay attention to is what will grow What good "watering" looks like — from simple expressions of gratitude to honest, loving conversations about conflict The gardening metaphor: tending soil, pulling weeds, and creating conditions for new growth in relationships Quote of the Episode "The grass is greener where we water it." From the Counseling Room Scott shares a practice he uses when working with couples and families in conflict: before diving into the presenting problem, he asks them to remember what they love about each other. The shift in energy that follows is a living demonstration of the episode's central truth — what we pay attention to is what grows. Resources Mentioned 📖 Lent 2026 daily readings — livingcompass.org 📱 Living Compass App (guided meditations by Scott and Robbin Brent) — app.livingcompass.org Reflection Questions What influence, if any, does social media have on how you see your own relationships? Is there a relationship in your life where you have been focused more on the weeds than on what is good and life-giving? Choose one relationship right now that would benefit from more intentional watering. What is one specific thing you could do this week to tend it? A Challenge from Scott Don't just take his word for it — try it. Choose one relationship. Water it every day this week. Be creative. And see for yourself whether it's true: the grass is greener where we water it.