The Greatest Act of Self-Care Is Learning to Listen

In this deeply personal episode of The Curly Girl's Obsessions, Jennifer gets real about the toll that running a business - and holding space for your team - can take on your body and soul. After three beloved stylists left her salon in quick succession, Jennifer found herself grappling with more than just a staffing shortage. She developed persistent shoulder and neck pain that wouldn’t go away, even after a long road trip. What she eventually uncovered was a powerful reminder that our bodies often keep score of the stress we think we’re managing just fine.Jennifer opens up about the emotional weight of losing Alyssa, a stylist who had been with her for years, as well as two others who left to pursue their own entrepreneurial dreams. While she fully supported their decisions, the grief of their absence - especially Alyssa’s consistent, bright energy - was heavier than she expected. Jennifer reflects on the reality of hustle culture for business owners, pushing back against the idea that you can simply “avoid burnout” while pouring into every aspect of your salon, your team, and your clients. She shares how the months leading up to Alyssa’s move to Arizona created a slow-burn tension that finally surfaced as physical pain.This episode also dives into Jennifer’s philosophy on curly hair cutting - why she stands by her 16-year-old wet-cutting methods despite trendy social media styles - and the challenges of mentoring stylists who eventually fly the nest. Through it all, Jennifer discovers that acknowledging the source of her pain - both emotional and physical - is the first step toward healing. Whether you’re a business owner, a curly hair enthusiast, or someone navigating a season of change, this conversation is a raw, honest look at what it means to grow through the hard stuff and come out the other side.