The Guilt of Choosing Yourself

Why does making time for creativity sometimes feel selfish?In Episode 9 of Create Anyway: You’re Allowed to Make Art, we explore a feeling many adult creatives struggle with but rarely discuss openly: the guilt of choosing yourself.When you have a full life — a career, family responsibilities, and daily obligations — carving out time for art can feel uncomfortable. You may wonder whether spending time painting, writing, recording music, or pursuing another creative passion is irresponsible or indulgent.But creativity isn’t selfish.This episode examines why so many adults experience guilt when pursuing personal creative work and how that feeling often comes from cultural expectations around productivity, responsibility, and self-sacrifice.In this episode, we discuss:Why adults feel guilty making time for artHow productivity culture affects creativityThe difference between selfishness and self-expressionWhy creative time can improve other areas of your lifeHow to reclaim personal space for artistic explorationIf you’ve ever felt uncomfortable prioritizing your own creative voice, this conversation will help you rethink what it means to invest in yourself.Making art isn’t about abandoning responsibility.It’s about remembering that you’re allowed to grow, explore, and express something that belongs only to you.You’re allowed to choose yourself.And you’re allowed to create anyway.1. Where the Guilt Comes FromMost of us were taught that responsibility means putting others first.Career. Family. Stability. Service.So when we invest time in something personal — especially something uncertain like art — it can feel like we’re breaking an unwritten rule.2. Productivity Culture and Self-WorthWe’ve been conditioned to measure our value through output.If something doesn’t generate income, solve a problem, or help someone else immediately, it can feel indulgent.Art challenges that belief.3. Creativity as Personal SpaceFor many adults, art becomes the only space that belongs solely to them.Not work.Not family.Not obligation.Just exploration.And claiming that space can feel uncomfortable at first.4. The Fear of Taking Time From OthersAnother layer of guilt is the fear that time spent on art takes something away from the people we care about.But creative fulfillment often makes us more present, thoughtful, and energized in the rest of our lives.5. Choosing Yourself Isn’t Abandoning OthersMaking art isn’t selfish.It’s an act of self-respect.And when you respect your own creative life, you model something powerful for the people around you: that personal growth doesn’t stop just because adulthood started.Takeaways:There's this sneaky little guilt that creeps in when you decide to dive back into creating art, almost like your inner critic is judging you for wanting some fun.Life is overflowing with responsibilities, and it's totally normal to feel like making art is a luxury we can't afford, but trust me, it's essential!Choosing to focus on your creativity can feel selfish, but that guilt often means you're onto something truly important for your well-being and self-expression.Creating art is not just about the end product; it’s about nurturing your inner self, which in turn empowers you to be present for all the other responsibilities in your life.We often prioritize work and others above our passions, but remember, taking time for yourself to create is not selfish—it's a vital investment in your happiness.Ultimately, making art helps you show up better in all areas of your life, so don’t let guilt stop you; embrace your creativity and share your unique voice with the world!How do I get such great guests?PodMatch I use Podmatch to get the best guests on the show. 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