The Guilt, Shame & Self-Blame Nobody Talks About

There is a thought that sits quietly underneath the fear for so many people who've been through a difficult birth: this was my fault. In this episode, Katie names it directly - the self-blame, the guilt, the shame - and explains where it comes from, why it isn't the truth, and what to do with it that actually helps.IN THIS EPISODE:The specific self-blame thoughts that come after a difficult birth, named without judgementThe difference between guilt and shame, and why that distinction matters clinicallyThe real barriers to self-compassion for people who've been through traumaWhy self-compassion isn't self-indulgent, and what it actually feels like to practise itA compassionate self-talk practice to try when the self-critical voice gets loudPRACTICAL TOOL THIS WEEK:The friend question - when the self-critical voice arrives, ask: what would I say to a friend who said this to me? Then say that to yourself instead.RESOURCES MENTIONED:Free Trauma-Informed Birth Plan Workbook | Birthcare with Katie30-Day Calm & Confident Birth Challenge (free)https://birthcare.co.uk/30-day-mindset-challengeBetter Birth Anxiety Workbook — The Birthcare Collectionhttps://birthcare.co.uk/products-listBirth Without Fear: Essentials for a Better Birthhttps://birthcare.co.uk/birth-without-fearCONNECT WITH KATIE:Instagram: @birthcarewithkatieWebsite: https://birthcare.co.uk/With compassion,Katie - NHS Mental Health Midwife | Perinatal Trauma Specialist