The Hidden Cost of “Shoulds” - How to Drop the Pressure and People-Pleasing & Enjoy the Season

Feeling the pressure to make the holidays perfect? Hosting, planning, cooking, attending every event — all while staying cheerful and grateful? If the holiday season tends to trigger stress, people-pleasing, guilt, resentment, or emotional overload… this episode is for you.In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori Buck, Master Certified Christian Life Coach, breaks down the Hidden Cost of “Shoulds.” You’ll learn:Why your brain creates pressure and “should” thinkingHow to tell the difference between a Kingdom Should (rooted in love, calling, and compassion) and a Performance Should (rooted in guilt, fear, and expectation)How to set gentle but firm boundaries without being rude, selfish, or unkindHow to create peace, emotional presence, and healthier family dynamics during the holidaysPlus, Lori shares real-life examples and simple boundary scripts you can use immediately — especially if you feel responsible for making everyone happy.This episode will help you:Release holiday stress and pressureStop people-pleasing during family gatheringsChoose your “yes” and “no” with peace and confidenceLove others without abandoning yourselfRecognize when guilt is disguising itself as responsibilityWhether you are navigating caregiving, family expectations, hosting traditions, or just trying not to lose yourself in the holiday chaos — this conversation will give you clarity, grace, relief, and a grounded path forward.If you liked this episode, please share it with a friend!And if you loved this episode, please rate the show and leave a review so others can find it, too.  You can also follow me on my socials:Instagram: @loribuckcoachingFacebook: Lori Buck CoachingWebsite: www.loribuckcoaching.com Email: [email protected]