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EPISODE · May 8, 2025 · 16 MIN

The Hidden Costs of Comparing Yourself to Your Metamour, Ep. 110

from Nope! We're Not Monogamous · host Ellecia Paine

You know you’re enough—but the second your partner mentions her, the spiral starts. Sound familiar?In this honest, grounding episode, I break down the real costs of comparison in non-monogamous relationships—like the way it quietly erodes your presence, self-trust, and peace.You’ll hear:Why “knowing better” doesn’t stop the spiralHow patriarchy conditions us to compete—even in open dynamicsWhat comparison really steals from youAnd the exact reframe and tools that help you come back to yourself💭 “They’re not my rival. They’re a reflection of what’s possible.”This episode is your invitation to stop shrinking and start showing up for yourself—even when the spiral hits.Ready for deeper support? Join Beyond Compare, my group coaching program for non-monogamous women. We turn awareness into embodied confidence. 👉https://www.elleciapaine.com/compareSend us Fan MailSupport the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237

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You know you’re enough—but the second your partner mentions her, the spiral starts. Sound familiar? In this honest, grounding episode, I break down the real costs of comparison in non-monogamous relationships—like the way it quietly erodes your presence, self-trust, and peace. You’ll hear: Why “knowing better” doesn’t stop the spiralHow patriarchy conditions us to compete—even in open dynamicsWhat comparison really steals from youAnd the exact reframe and tools that help you come back to you...

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