The Hidden Face Of Domestic Violence with Special Guest Sara Blevins

Send us Fan MailDomestic violence can be happening right next to us while looking completely “normal” from the outside, and that’s one reason it’s so hard to spot and even harder to talk about. We sit down with Sara Blevins, a domestic violence advocate and Director of Development at Branches Domestic Violence Shelter in West Virginia, to unpack what abuse actually looks like when it’s driven by power and control, not just physical harm. If you’ve ever wondered how someone can seem polished, successful, and steady while living in fear, this conversation connects the dots without blame or oversimplified answers.We dig into safety planning and why there’s no one-size-fits-all formula for leaving an abusive relationship. Sara explains how advocates think through real-life barriers like children, pets, hidden documents, limited money, and shifting risks. We also talk about why leaving often takes multiple attempts, how isolation is used to cut off support networks, and how the power and control wheel helps people name patterns like gaslighting, coercive control, and intimidation. One piece that hits especially hard: financial abuse can be the cage, from sabotaged credit to bills run up in a survivor’s name.We also make space for hope. Sara shares what “the other side” can look like when survivors connect with shelter services, legal advocacy, and longer-term housing support, plus what friends and family can do to stay supportive without trying to control the outcome. If you want concrete ways to help, we cover options from donating and volunteering to simply learning the signs and sharing resources. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review with the one thing you want every person to understand about domestic violence.Please be sure to checkout our website for previous episodes, our psych-approved resource page, and connect with us on social media! All this and more at www.thelylaspodcast.com