The Hidden Link Between Anxious Attachment and Pregnancy Loss (That No One Talks About) with Sharna Southan

I recently had the honor of joining Sharna, the global pregnancy loss expert behind The Pregnancy Loss Recovery Method™, the only proven framework that addresses pregnancy loss as reproductive trauma, not just grief — for a deeply powerful conversation on her podcast What I Wish I Knew About Pregnancy Loss.In this episode, we explore something that so many women experience but rarely have language for: the invisible connection between anxious attachment, pre-verbal trauma, and pregnancy loss.We talk about why loss mothers often feel trapped in hypervigilance… why trauma cannot be healed through thinking alone… and how your nervous system may have been shaped long before your loss ever happened.I also share parts of my own journey through chronic anxiety, physical health challenges, and relationship patterns — and how learning to work with the body changed everything talk therapy couldn’t reach.Inside this conversation, we explore:• Why chronic anxiety often shows up in the body as physical symptoms• Why “crying it out” actually conflicts with our biology as mothers• How trauma can be imprinted before we even have language• What’s happening in the nervous system when anxiety spikes above a 7/10• The connection between people-pleasing, grief, and anxious attachment• Somatic tools for regulation including vagus nerve toning and somatic unblendingIf you’ve ever felt like your anxiety lives in your body… or like your nervous system is constantly scanning for danger after loss… this conversation will help you understand what’s actually happening beneath the surface.