The Hidden Reason You’re Struggling to Orgasm With Your Partner

Difficulty orgasming isn’t always about you. At least, not in the way you might think.In this minisode of In Bed with Science, I’m talking about one of the less discussed reasons orgasm can become harder with a partner: when your orgasm starts to feel like proof that they’re good at sex.Orgasms aren’t gifts.And when your partner’s care, effort or disappointment becomes part of the experience, pleasure can quickly turn into pressure.In this episode, we explore:Why “giving” someone an orgasm can be an unhelpful way to think about sexHow a partner’s investment in your orgasm can make it harder to relaxWhy pressure and self-monitoring can get in the way of pleasureWhat to do when orgasm has become the goal of sexYour orgasm isn’t a performance review of your partner’s skills. And it isn’t the only proof that sex was good.Interested in my services? Check them out hereJoin my 1:1 online program Re:Desire here.Do you want to submit a listener question for the podcast? Here's the link