The I Statement S*it Sandwich and What to Do Instead!

Are you using "I statements" as a cheat sheet to dump your feelings on your partner?If you’ve ever tried to communicate better in your relationship using “I statements,” you might be surprised to learn they can actually backfire when used the wrong way.Having the tool of owning your feelings only works if you use it properly – otherwise, it breaks something. In this episode, I offer a psychological insight for us all to snack on and ask if we are really using the "I statement" appropriately.We will look at how to talk without triggering each other, and the difference between owning your personal feelings effectively and simply using the sh*t sandwich that can be the "I statement" to project your feelings onto others.This episode also contains the reminder that if you’re not having the goal of connection and greater understanding with your partner, then no amount of "I statements" is going to get you there. Over 90% of communication is non-verbal, so your body language might be saying something completely different too!Please join me, as we explore healthy ways to get your feelings heard and your needs met.We’ll unpack:How “I statements” can be misused to blame or shame your partnerThe real goal of connection behind effective communicationHow to share your feelings without triggering defensivenessWhy 90% of communication is nonverbal—and how to use that to your advantageThe subtle difference between owning your feelings and projecting them“If you’re not aiming for true connection and understanding, no amount of ‘I statements’ will get you there.” - Dr. Kavetha SundaramoorthyWhether you’re talking to a partner, parent, or friend, these insights will help you make every tough conversation a little safer and more constructive.Oh—and if you have something you're navigating and would love my take on it...  🗣️ You can submit a question or situation for a future episode right here (totally anonymous!):  👉Submit your questionP.S. Love the podcast? Reviews help us spread these life-changing tools far and wide. If you leave a 5-star review and submit a screenshot here, I’ll send you my Rapid Relationship Repair mini-course—a short but powerful set of tools to reduce conflict and improve connection immediately.FREE tools:Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-NewsletterNeed more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun