The ICN and the Enneagram: Understanding Your Childhood Filters

Send a textWhat if your strongest emotional reactions, your relationship patterns, and even your inner voice weren’t random — but rooted in childhood?In this episode of Childhood and the Enneagram, Susan Parker Jones guides us into a deeper understanding of the Inner Childhood Narrative (ICN) — the unconscious story we write in childhood about who we are, how safe we are, and whether we can count on others.You’ll explore how these narratives shape emotional reactions, self-talk, and relationship dynamics — and how the Enneagram’s three stances (Dependent, Withdrawn, and Assertive) reveal the hidden strategies we develop to feel safe and seen.Whether you’re a parent wanting to model emotional safety, a professional working with children, or someone doing the brave work of healing your own story, this episode offers compassionate insights, practical reflection questions, and a pathway toward greater self-understanding.Because when we name the story beneath the reaction, we begin to write a new one — with clarity, connection, and self-compassion.