The Inner Critic Ruining Your Sex Life

Send us Fan MailEver feel like you're watching yourself during sex instead of actually enjoying it?In this episode, we're diving into the concept of spectatoring—a form of sexual self-consciousness where you're mentally observing and judging yourself during intimate moments instead of being present in your body.If you've ever found yourself thinking things like "What do I do with my hands?" or "Do I look weird right now?" you're not alone. These thoughts are incredibly common, and they can seriously interfere with pleasure and connection.We'll explore where spectatoring comes from, how the male gaze shapes the way many women experience their bodies, and why this mental "observer" can make it harder to relax and feel turned on.I also share three practical ways to shift out of spectator mode and back into your body so you can experience deeper connection and pleasure with your partner.Whether you're navigating intimacy after kids or simply want to feel more present in your sex life, this episode will give you a powerful new lens for understanding what's happening in your mind during intimacy.Ready to reconnect with intimacy after kids?Join my free masterclass where I walk you through the biggest reasons intimacy changes after parenthood—and what you can do to bring back connection, pleasure, and desire in your relationship.SIGN UP HERE!Connect with me:Instagram: @intimacyafterkidsWebsite: https://intimacyafterkids.com