The Invisible Load That’s Making You Tired EP 93

Have you ever found yourself thinking, Why am I still so tired? I haven't even done that much.That was me last week.It had been more than a week since I got home from co-hosting a four-day retreat, and I was frustrated that I still felt exhausted. Surely I should be recovered by now?Then I realized I was only accounting for what I'd done physically and completely ignoring everything my nervous system had been carrying.In this episode, I'm talking about the invisible load we tend to not give ourselves credit for: emotional labour, mental load, decision fatigue, caregiving, co-regulation, being "on," holding space for other people, disrupted routines, stress, and the hundreds of tiny demands that keep our nervous systems highly available.I also get into allostatic load, why recovery doesn't necessarily begin when the stressful event ends, and why a couple of hours on the couch might not actually mean you've been recovering for days.Because sometimes we're not exhausted from doing too much physically.We're exhausted from carrying too much mentally, emotionally and relationally—and then beating ourselves up because we don't think we've done enough to be this tired.So before you decide you're lazy, unmotivated, or that you "should be fine by now," I want you to ask a different question:What has my nervous system actually been carrying?Maybe your exhaustion makes perfect sense.You've just been measuring the wrong things.Looking for somewhere to have conversations like this?Every Wednesday at 8 PM EST, I host a free community call for women who are sober, alcohol-free, or questioning their relationship with alcohol. We talk about the stuff that comes with choosing to live differently... the rebuilding, the relationships, the identity shifts, the hard days, and figuring out what you actually want your life to look like now.You don't need to have it all figured out, and you don't need to be a certain number of days, months or years alcohol-free. Come listen, share, connect, and be around other women who get it.Join us for free → https://thedeliberateone.com/the-deliberate-community🔁 Ongoing support: The Deliberate Practice — a steady rhythm of nervous system regulation, breathwork, and integration.Explore everything at thedeliberateone.com Connect on Instagram @thedeliberateoneIf this episode supported you, you can buy me a coffee here