The Last Time Was A Tuesday | Ken Woodward #97

"Every unasked question has an expiration date." - Ken Woodward Ken tries to say goodbye to a shipmate before leaving the submarine. The man goes on emergency leave, and the goodbye has already happened without him noticing it. He had the calendar, the date, the list of names. The last one got past him anyway. That is the shape of this episode. We do not know which time is the last time, and preparation does not change that. Ken walks through Tim Urban's arithmetic on parents, a return to his hometown that was supposed to be final and wasn't, and an upcoming lunch with his ninety-three-year-old aunt, who is the last door into a generation that has already closed. In Ambiguous Loss, Pauline Boss offers a useful frame: closure is largely a myth, and the real skill is holding something open without needing it to shut. The question idea underneath it: every unasked question has an expiration date you cannot see. Some are saving for a better moment. Some you can't ask because you don't yet know you will want the answer. Ken is recording before he flies, without a resolution, because the not knowing is the point. This Curated Questions episode can be found on all major platforms and at CuratedQuestions.com. Be sure to subscribe to the weekly Curated Questions Dispatch newsletter for more fun with questions and curiosity! (https://substack.com/@curatedquestions (https://substack.com/@curatedquestions?)) Keep questioning!