Part 1: The Leadership Habit Killing Your Relationship

In Part 1 of this two part series, I sit down with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, the physician turned intimacy coach behind Uncompromising Intimacy, to talk about the part of life nobody warns the high performing woman about. The very leadership skills that make you successful at work are the same skills quietly killing the connection at home. Alexandra walks us through the Four Types of Relationships, the Manager Mode trap that emasculates the men we love, and the exact communication tool to use the next time something small, like dishes in the sink, blows up into something big.Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is a physician who left clinical medicine to become one of the country's leading relationship and intimacy coaches for high functioning, career driven couples. She is the author of Uncompromising Intimacy and the host of The Intimate Marriage podcast, where she helps couples move beyond the toleration relationship most marriages settle into and build what she calls a Conscious Partnership: the kind of passionate, alive, communicative relationship that most couples do not realize is a learnable skill. Married for 29 years to her husband, whom she met during the first week of medical school, and a mother of four, Alexandra has been interviewed more than 400 times and has guided thousands of couples through the work of bringing their full selves into intimacy.Key Takeaways:- Understanding the four relationship types helps identify your current state.- Effective communication involves vulnerability and sharing impact, not blame.- Transforming toleration into conscious partnership requires skill development.- Leadership skills can be applied to personal relationships for better connection.- Responsibility for your own experience is key to healthier communication.Episode Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Relationship Dynamics03:04 The Impact of Leadership Skills on Personal Relationships05:58 Childhood Influences on Love and Partnership08:54 The Journey to Understanding Intimacy11:53 The Role of Communication in Relationships14:52 Types of Relationships: Toxic, Termination, Toleration, and Conscious Partnership17:46 The Importance of Vulnerable Communication21:07 Practical Tools for Relationship Improvement24:01 The Challenge of Balancing Leadership and Intimacy26:50 Conclusion and Next StepsWork with Amy: amyevanscoaching.com/workwithmeBook your complimentary career planning call: amyevanscoaching.com/workwithmeFollow the show: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-in-sales-leadership/id1765026855Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0lnzIwlqDzxFTA4KllGfWW