THE LINEBACKER: Lies, control and the illusion of security

When the person you trust the most is also the one who breaks you, how do you find your way back to yourself? What happens when love is used as a weapon, and security is just an illusion? Today, we’re exposing the hidden reality of emotional, psychological, and financial abuse behind closed doors—especially when the abuser is a powerful figure. The story of intimate partner violence in the NFL is more than just headlines; it’s a deeply rooted issue where fame and wealth often shield perpetrators while silencing survivors. Lisa welcomes Tori Darling, a mother, business owner, and the creator of the viral TikTok series Who the F Did I Almost Marry? NFL Edition. Tori takes us inside her relationship with a former NFL player, revealing the manipulation, deception, and financial control that kept her trapped. From love bombing to gaslighting to the moment she knew she had to escape, Tori shares her journey of survival and reclaiming her power. Together, Lisa and Tori discuss the complexities of healing, the challenges of leaving an abusive relationship when financial control is a weapon, and the power of speaking out despite the fear. Survivors deserve to be believed, supported, and empowered—not dismissed or shamed. This episode is about dismantling the illusion of security, recognizing the red flags, and standing with survivors who refuse to stay silent. From now on… pay attention to red flags and see them for exactly what they are. Just a heads up: This episode contains discussions of a high-control abusive relationship, which includes psychological, financial, and emotional abuse. Some may find it upsetting. We encourage you to take care of yourself. Follow Tori Darling @toridarlinglife on TikTok, Instagram and YouTube. Follow Lisa Phillips @iamlisaphillips on Instagram. From Now On is produced by LA PHILLIPS MEDIA. Listen and follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube. Have a story to share with us? Email us at [email protected]. Join our movement and keep up to date on all things From Now On by following us @fromnowonpod on all socials. If today’s conversation resonated with you and you are seeking more support in your own healing journey, here are some resources below: If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted, help is available. Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) If you or someone you know is being trafficked, contact the National Human Trafficking Hotline. Text 233733 (befree). PAVE is a 501(c)(3) non-profit creating a world free from sexual violence and building communities to support survivors. Speak Out, Act, Reclaim (SOAR) is dedicated to providing a safe and empowering space for survivors of sex trafficking to reclaim their stories and stand up for themselves and each other.