The Loneliness of Sibling Loss with Alyson Shelton and Lynn Shattuck

Send us Fan Mail November is Worldwide Bereaved Siblings Month, yet most siblings grieve alone. They’re told to be strong for their parents, or they get subtle, and, sometimes not so subtle, cues to move on. Yet the loss of a sibling is the loss of a lifetime, because it’s a relationship we expect we’ll have for most of our lives. Join me, Alyson Shelton, and Lynn Shattuck as we remember our brothers and talk about sibling loss, the challenges of living with disenfranchised grief, and how writing has helped us heal and maintain a relationship with our siblings even though they are gone. Alyson’s Bio: Alyson Shelton is an award winning screenwriter. Her essays have been published widely at outlets such as The NY Times, Ms., The Rumpus and more. She hosts a popular series inspired by George Ella Lyon’s poem, Where I’m From. The poem is also the inspiration for her memoir in progress. Lynn’s Bio: Lynn Shattuck grew up in a Southeast Alaskan rainforest and is now a Maine-based writer. She co-founded thelossofalifetime.com, a website for grieving siblings. Her essays have been featured in Elephant Journal, Human Parts, Al Jazeera, P.S. I Love You, The Fix, Vice and Mind Body Green. Resources Mentioned During This Episode: There’s No Escape by Alyson Shelton What I Want You to Say When I’m Grieving by Lynn Shattuck: My 20-Year-Old Brother Died By Suicide. Here's Why I Almost Joined Him by Lisa Cooper Ellison Lynn’s Where I’m From Poem Lisa’s Where I’m From Poem Alyson’s Where I’m From Poem Episode Highlights: 3:23 Silent, Unacknowledged Grief 7:45: The Impact of the Hierarchy of Grief 12:23 The Benefits of Writing about Sibling Loss 18:31: Grieving and Writing in Community 23:49 Building the Sibling Loss Anthology 32:48 Getting to Know Alyson and Lynn 35:23 Lynn and Alyson’s Best Writing Advice Connect with Lynn Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100064888772287 Substack: https://lynnshattuck.substack.com/ Connect with Alyson Website: www.alysonshelton.com Instagram: @byalysonshelton Where I’m From poem project: https://www.alysonshelton.com/where-im-from.html#/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Byalysonshelton Connect with the Loss of a Lifetime Sibling Loss Group Website: https://www.lossofalifetime.com/ Instagram: @lossofalifetime Building Better Memoir Scenes: https://janefriedman.com/building-better-memoir-scenes-with-lisa-cooper-ellison/ Connect with your host, Lisa: Get Your Free Copy of Ditch Your Inner Critic: https://lisacooperellison.com/subscribe/ Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn Produced by Espresso Podcast Production