The lost rite of passage

In this episode of The Men We Are, we explore why so many modern men feel stuck somewhere between adolescence and adulthood , careers, relationships, and responsibility. Inspired by themes from 300 and the Spartan Agoge, we examine the ancient idea of rites of passage and ask what happens when societies stop clearly initiating boys into manhood. We explore masculinity, responsibility, male identity, mentorship, discipline, emotional steadiness, and the psychological need for challenge and meaning. From fraternity hazing and modern distraction to fatherhood, endurance, competence, and purpose, this conversation looks at what healthy masculinity could mean in 2026. If you’ve ever felt unfinished, untethered, or uncertain about what it truly means to become a grounded man, this episode offers an honest and hopeful perspective on modern manhood.