The Marriage Lesson I Wish I Had Learned 50 Years Ago | Episode #062

Send us Fan MailAfter more than 50 years of marriage, after 36 years of counseling couples as a pastor, and studying the Bible, I've come to believe something I never would have believed as a young husband.A wife's greatest need isn't anything I would have imagined: her deepest longing is to feel safe.In this episode, I share the two marriage lessons I wish someone had taught me before Debbie and I got married. They changed not only our marriage, but my understanding of God, myself, and what it truly means to love another person.I'll share the story of the man God used to lead me to Christ, why I once questioned the Bible's teaching on sacrificial love, and how overcoming shame and self-doubt transformed the way I relate to my wife.If you've ever wanted a stronger marriage, don't start by asking how to change your spouse. Start by asking what kind of person God is inviting you to become.In this episode, you'll learn:• Why emotional safety is one of the greatest gifts a husband can give his wife.• How insecurity quietly affects every marriage.• Why your spouse can never provide the security only Christ can give.• How resting in God's love frees you to love sacrificially.My prayer is that this conversation helps you become a husband, father, and leader who reflects the love of Christ.If you'd like to take the next step, download my free eBook, Five Lies Christian Men Believe That Keep Them Stuck, or reach out to learn more about coaching.Time Stamps:00:00 – What I wish I'd known before getting married00:51 – The man God used to change my life01:32 – The Bible verse I didn't want to believe (Ephesians 5:25)03:08 – What it really means to make your wife feel safe05:08 – The second lesson: becoming secure in Christ05:29 – Why insecurity damages every relationship06:12 – The marriage I almost missed07:00 – Final encouragement and next stepsConnect with Craig @CraigWalkerCaochingFree eBook: 5 Lies Christian Men Believe That Keep Them Stuck  https://craigwalkercoaching.com/5liesConnect with Craig  @CraigWalkerCaochingFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/craigwalkercoachingInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/craigwalkercoachingLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-walker-1816367/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@craig.walker.coachYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@craigwalker9197Get a copy of Craig's Book SHAMELESS The Life You Were Born to Love https://amzn.to/44vldsQSign up for the Safe Husband Three-Day Free Workshop: Secure Men Make Safe Homes https://craigwalkercoaching.com/resourcesJoin the Masterpiece Brotherhood Men's Group: https://craigwalkercoaching.com/brotherhood