The Meaning of Real Empowerment | #PERSPECTIVES with Sharon Pearson

KEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: 0.23 Glam: I was looking back through the first chapter (of Ultimate You) and I love the message around empowerment and what it means to be truly empowered • Because we hear so much about that, about what it means to feel empowered • Sharon: That’s a good point. We do hear a lot about that. And people interpret that as being louder, perhaps more critical of others, absolutism, black and white thinking • And it’s not everyone, but a lot of people hear empowerment and they think, “That’s right! It’s my time!” • There’s an external-ness to it, whereas the empowerment we’re tapping into in this community is about “where is it within me?” • That regardless of what’s going on out there, I’m okay, I’m more than okay, I can handle this, I feel a deep sense of wellbeing within me in spite of and regardless of what’s out there • A lot of time the voice of empowerment is an internal voice, a quiet centeredness that amongst that, I’m just going to breathe in and pause, and not allow my emotional reactivity to clog my thinking 3.11 Glam: I loved in the introduction, I think you say, “I’m tired of hearing people say “The answer is within. Because where do I look and how do I find it? • And I think part of what you share in this first chapter is the actual pathway to looking within • Because even when we know it’s meant to be within we’re often still looking externally • Sharon: Right, we often base our internal change on external factors, “I’ll do it when” often even time can be the external factor “I’ll get to it later” • For instance I held on to a grudge against my parents for several years, and at a certain point I realized, “they don’t even know what I’m sulking about” • They’re just living their lives as they should, and I’m just making drama in my head about what they could have or should have done, which is the past, it’s not changing • I had to drop the noise, of how things had to be for me to be okay. Because none of those things are going to change, and you still have to be okay. • That’s what the whole book is orientated around • But it’s hands on, you can’t just read it and feel empowered. You have to take the steps 9.32 I really resented a message that told me to focus on my strengths, because I was in no way being validated for where I was at • A lot of people are in the same position, they need to hear, where you’re at, it makes sense • Where else could you have landed? • Some of us got faulty programming, I got really faulty programming, and I was running these programs • These programs were on righteousness, defensiveness, blame etc. • I needed to have a deep awareness of the programs I was running • Later in the book we talk about developing some more helpful programs, but first it’s just about getting rid of the ones that aren’t helpful • So part one is a lot about differentiating ourselves from our tribal cycle, because until we de-enmesh ourselves from that, we can’t elevate from it OTHER RESOURCES: • Ultimate You Book - https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you • Ultimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com • Upcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings • Sharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com • Disruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/ • Phone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 • The Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach • Feedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - [email protected] • Perspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube